“DakarSoFar: ‘There are no Bees in Dakar’” @Mayathepoet and other Twinks…

Maya Wegerif [Mayathepoet] DakarSoFar: “There are no Bees in Dakar” – bee-stings, meeting @binyavangaw and general debauchery http://t.co/Ps1vUyqmP6

Another Africa [another_africa] Are you, like, some kind of crazy African prince or some shit?” Neneh Cherry on running into a young Youssou… http://t.co/FjfcqYvB5A

the kinte space [KinteSpace] The Rise of Dark Tourism – Debra Kamin – The Atlantic http://t.co/e9kliQIa6R

ST [seyitaylor] CcHub’s KidsZone ‘Summer of Code’ Programme Now Open to Applications http://t.co/UfrqphL4Kx via @techcabal http://t.co/RH45nKrDXc

marlyn [virtualactivism] What happened when Palestinian children were killed in front of a hotel full of journalists http://t.co/HAiuhnYgFA via wessam dad

Shadow And Act [shadowandact] Deceased Brown Bodies Unceremoniously Displayed on Our Screens… http://t.co/rMJoDBoMFQ by @digtanya

michael massenburg [mikemassenburg] Terry Adkins, Artist, Musician and Educator, Dies at 60: http://t.co/OaKZX5kgej via @gallerist

Shadow And Act [shadowandact] Rio, we have a problem!! Second black male found naked & tied to a pole; this time, face down in the scorching heat! http://t.co/g8iaTh6cva

Chuck D [MrChuckD] Stupid sht.USA does its best keepn black celeb artists about as Internationally scared & dumb as a walking paintbrush http://t.co/c7OR2meJ26

The Sojourner Truth [sotrueradio] LAPD Cop Beat Man on His Knees Near Staples Center, D.A. Says http://t.co/aKtKQ54Y36 via @laweekly

Afua Hirsch [afuahirsch] We read Flaubert for beauty, Jane Austen for psychology, but the #african writer is expected to write about poverty mt @benokri #caineprize

the kinte space [KinteSpace] 75 Years In The Making: Harvard Just Released Its Epic Study On What Men Need To Live A Happy Life http://t.co/cLX6OJ672L

Bryan D. Wilhite [BryanWilhite] ‘Tiger Mom': Data Prove The Longer You’re In America, The Worse You Perform http://t.co/nGlWCJcoBe)

Ferrari Sheppard [stopbeingfamous] Oppressed people often become so obsessed with their oppression that they don’t recognize that they’re doing it to others.

Shadow And Act [shadowandact] The Devil’s Eye Syndrome: Creative Jealousy Against the Black Independent Filmmaker http://t.co/FdezKDy9wx http://t.co/sE6qRz1ulH

Sian Staley [SianStaley] @Strong_BlackMan: “How different would our education be if we sent our children to school to create jobs for themselves?”-Amos Wilson”

the kinte space [KinteSpace] Role Of Ethnicity And Religion Overstated In Some African Conflicts | Black Star News http://t.co/pVAuxhSvLU

Engadget [engadget] Google loves Epic Rap Battles and the ad money it brings in http://t.co/kpamUJ2Iga

Bryan D. Wilhite [BryanWilhite] Move over quinoa, Ethiopia’s teff poised to be next big super grain http://t.co/zWdl3Hezd2

Dave Winer ☮ [davewiner] School ditches rules and loses bullies. http://t.co/IFKnmo0MTZ

Africa is a Country [AfricasaCountry] “Not too long ago, right here in America (if you’re over 45, you’ll remember), there was a restaurant called Sambo’s” http://t.co/mHCb99ejEJ

Engadget [engadget] Netflix’s first taste of ‘Star Wars’ coming with exclusive ‘Clone Wars’ series in March http://t.co/VAb5klpatO

Bryan D. Wilhite [BryanWilhite] This World Map Shows The Enormity Of America’s Prison Problem http://t.co/cSVwOyGrax)

Medical Daily [medicaldailycom] Changing Your Meal Times Can Have A ‘Significant’ Impact On Your #Liver http://t.co/OnrnTg7JEm

Dr. Vandana Shiva [drvandanashiva] #Roundup #glyphosate affects earthworms & symbiotic mycorrhizal fungi in model ecosystem.Impact Soil fertility http://t.co/f1folL4lS0

Bryan D. Wilhite [BryanWilhite] Critter & Guitari’s tiny homemade synths feel good on your brain http://t.co/j085z8Tfv7

the kinte space [KinteSpace] Darwin’s complete Galapagos library posted online | Ars Technica http://t.co/t3E9Nr7AJm

Bryan D. Wilhite [BryanWilhite] Coursera withdraws its online learning service from Cuba, Iran and Sudan to comply with US law http://t.co/3lnRJ6Rvqj

Femi Oke [FemiOke] All set for “Africans In The Stream” at #SMWLagos? To stream live register for free here http://t.co/IGse0mBhgF then click on camera icon.

“Spain’s Most Important African Film Festival” and other Twinks…

Shadow And Act [shadowandact] Spain’s Most Important African Film Festival (FCAT Cordoba) Wants Your Films… http://t.co/kYxy4frUWb

Dr. Vandana Shiva [drvandanashiva] This is the reality of #BT cotton in India, not #Monsanto‘s ads, not its PR men’s spin http://t.co/YLKa6Nihvh

African Entrepreneur [africatechie] Food or phone? Study finds some poor Kenyans choose the second | Global Envision http://t.co/1YhF32TaEJ

Bryan D. Wilhite [BryanWilhite] “Africa’s Food Market Has Trillion Dollar Potential” and other Twinks…: RT @VC4Africa: Africa’s Food Market Ha… http://t.co/Rwhb9VE1mH

艾未未 Ai Weiwei [aiww] RT @TheresaKimm: @aiww Please help stop sales of ivory in China. Slaughter of the African Elephants http://t.co/4lPPYaUsRH

Tim O'Reilly [timoreilly] Democracy Map: an interesting project to address “the biggest failure of open government” http://t.co/CbAwh3139z Not the biggest, but…

Joe Frank [JoeFrankcom] Here’s a conversation between Ira Glass and David Sedaris about Joe (Download MP3): http://t.co/Ns5WBjveim

hannibaltabu [hannibaltabu] Holy crap! This NSFW first person video is, I believe, why the internet was created. Wow. http://t.co/hRsAxNn8J4

Bryan D. Wilhite [BryanWilhite] Watch: ‘The End Of Eating Everything’ An Animated Short By Wangechi Mutu w/ Santigold | Shadow and Act http://t.co/FDuO6Jv3mA

Ed Dunn [dreamandhustle] What My Museum and Exhibition Weekend Taught Me http://t.co/xWy7XcLWc7

Bryan D. Wilhite [BryanWilhite] iSteve: Funny or Die to debut Steve Jobs comedy biopic starring Justin Long http://t.co/Ipt5qsyoMz via @DigitalTrends

Tim O'Reilly [timoreilly] Amazing. Jet Blue flight doesn’t have enough fuel to make it all the way BOS-SFO. Never happened to me before. You? http://t.co/YzHGQ8IzZi

Bryan D. Wilhite [BryanWilhite] Documentary on activist who taught people to make solar cottage industries in 16 countries http://t.co/mjbMQeJ1PM

Laurie Penny [PennyRed] Absolutely the definitive article on Sheryl Sandberg and the ‘feminism’ of self-improvement and corporate ambition http://t.co/dV0BQz2hEv

Bryan D. Wilhite [BryanWilhite] Location Data Really Isn’t Anonymous – Researchers Show It’s Easy to Identify Users http://t.co/cAzEan2Wrh

hannibaltabu [hannibaltabu] “Poor sleep in old age prevents the brain from storing memories” … oh crap … http://t.co/FYdzZcmcKQ

Bryan D. Wilhite [BryanWilhite] Math for Animators http://t.co/GNXZnALcwU

ashe dryden [ashedryden] Just announced to the table that Jesus is coming out with new mosquitos this year.

Bryan D. Wilhite [BryanWilhite] Death: One Day, You’re Going to Die. Here’s How to Prepare for It – @Lifehacker http://t.co/cBxePKRhOs

Shanley [shanley] reminder that the entire infrastructure of civilization is crumbling

Alexis Sellier [cloudhead] “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place” — George Bernard Shaw

Bryan D. Wilhite [BryanWilhite] BBC News – Why are Zimbabwe police seizing radios? http://t.co/97oZ1bJCRy

news from kintespace.com ::: 3/28/2009

Contents:

  • ::: David Aondona Angya: Broken Marriages
  • ::: Chris Abani: Break a Leg
  • ::: Vandana Shiva: From Food Monopolies to Food Democracy (Youtube.com)

::: David Aondona Angya: Broken Marriages

::: ::: http://kintespace.com/p_david_angya0.html

We are pleased to indulge in our first selection from Dr. Jerry Agada’s labor of love, 500 Nigerian Poets. This Aboki Publishers volume, shipping from 43 New Bridge (Otukpo) Road in Makurdi, Benue State, sings with diversity. It is a rich tapestry of creative vision.

We present only one of the 500 poets, David Aondona Angya. A native of Benue State and a graduate of Benue State University, young David (born in 1976) is a lawyer, preacher, actor and broadcaster. His work, “Broken Marriages,” speaks with near geometric precision about a traditionally messy subject.

::: Chris Abani: Break a Leg

::: ::: http://kintespace.com/p_chris_abani0.html

Out of respect for his publishers Chris Abani told us here in the kinté space that his printed poetry should not be reproduced (here in the kinté space) without permission. We went through one publisher’s automated, Web-based permissions process months ago and received no response. Chris Abani’s own site, chrisabani.com, vouches for his sincerity because this site has no “poetry section” deliberately designed for reading on the web, rather we are offered book covers to entice us to pay our respects—and I can assure you that Chris Abani is worth the price of admission.

But for the others out there who really, really need to sample Abani’s work before paying the price, we have compiled streaming audio clips, painstakingly assembled from YouTube.com (see credits below). Now (until further notice) you can listen to Chris Abani present his arresting work—this way is even more captivating and should be a more powerful way draw you into his rich literary world.

::: Vandana Shiva: From Food Monopolies to Food Democracy (Youtube.com)

::: ::: http://kintespace.com/p_vandanashiva1.html

The International Federation of Organic Agriculture Movements (IFOAM) presents Dr. Vandana Shiva, her talk “From Monocultures to Diversity, From Food Monopolies to Food Democracy.

This talk introduces some findings that might be surprising, including the report that states that farming that lacks biodiversity produces less food than organic diverse plots. What is more is assertion that what mega-farms produce is not really food but a “non-food.” This video presentation through YouTube.com—which is referenced quite frequently on the Web—is an excellent compliment to our streaming audio, “Vandana Shiva: Planting Seeds for Change.”

The Jewel Woods “Black Male Privilege” Checklist

Jewel Woods is male. Let’s get that straight. And, without him, I would not have been able to write “Flippant Remarks about the ‘mass exodus of African American male tourists to Brazil’.” So I think it is my Blog-civic duty to respond to (almost) all 94 of the items on “The Black Male Privileges Checklist” (hat-tip to Liberator Magazine for letting me know about this). I do this heavily under the influence that my opinion does not truly matter to the people who should care the most: that would be Black women in particular and contemporary, urban women in general. Too many women are too busy being oppressed (and I just wrote those words in this sentence without any sarcasm) and making conscious/subconscious plans of revenge against male monsters to care about what this “monster” has to say.

The eye of my imagination sees so clearly a woman 100 years from now reading my poem, “void this misogyny,” being driven to tears with the desire to meet me and talk to me because suddenly I am so interesting. Well, guess what lady: 100 years from now I’ll be dead! And I have been using the most advanced communication technology in the history of the white world for over a decade and I have yet to discover any example of this tool being used to its fullest—especially in the world of literary arts. So in an effort to contribute to the future—because the future is always better (as it selects for African genes)—here are my responsible responses:

Leadership & Politics

1. I don’t have to choose my race over my sex in political matters.

“Political matters” is in the marketing department of the business. I’m in the technical department. The very concept of politics and the polloi are foreign to the real me. “Race” is not a real concept for me. Next.

2. When I read African American History textbooks, I will learn mainly about black men.

African American History textbooks are secondary to me. African History has always been my primary concern—even before Michael Jordan (and his dark complexion) became popular with ‘my’ women. African history is about African women. You can spot a pseudo-African snake-oil dealer real quick when he starts talking about Black power without a concern for the English language and no serious prioritization of the regeneration of wisdom-communities of women of color. There is no frickin’ way in the world a group of wise, strong African women would treat me like the shit that supposedly I am according to properly-assimilated “real world” women. So clearly I am biased toward all of us studying the world of wise women. For an example, see “Vandana Shiva: Planting Seeds for Change.”

3. When I learn about the Civil Rights Movement & the Black Power Movements, most of the leaders that I will learn about will be black men.

This item is just like item #2 only framed differently. In addition, here is an excerpt from “My Three Sexist Assumptions of the Apocalypse”:

For you other Negro asses out there who just happen to be reading this, you should have no motherfucking problem recognizing that the Civil Rights Movement is founded upon the social organizing principles of women of African descent. Yes, you want to credit some Negro preacher man in a suit and you want to credit some Quakerly Jewish lawyer but nothing would have happened without organized Black women.

4. I can rely on the fact that in the near 100-year history of national civil rights organizations such as the NAACP and the Urban League, virtually all of the executive directors have been male.

Read these words carefully, written by an award-winning ACT-SO finalist (in poetry of course): f’ the NAACP! The Garveyite bottom line is this: the NAACP was not allowed to own land. It was in the original charter. So, from the beginning, the organization was not designed to grow any real influence or real power. So whatever manhood is in the organization it is no greater than my manhood because at this time I hold no real estate investments outside of a squalid REIT.

5. I will be taken more seriously as a political leader than black women.

I immediately assume that this is reference to mainstream (“white”) authority figures taking seriously. Secondarily, I assume this refers to Black church leaders’ realm of influence. These two populations are temporal to me—these are not of the everlasting so not a concern for me. Get Cynthia McKinney on the phone for this one. I’ll respect her need to talk about this issue.

6. Despite the substantial role that black women played in the Civil Rights Movement and Black Power Movement, currently there is no black female that is considered a “race leader”.

Oprah Winfrey turned that one down in exchange for a larger viewing audience.

7. I can live my life without ever having read black feminist authors, or knowing about black women’s history, or black women’s issues.

This is more toward “American privilege” than Black male privilege. For more details, see “Photograph of Gayl Jones.”

8. I can be a part of a black liberation organization like the Black Panther Party where an “out” rapist Eldridge Cleaver can assume leadership position.

No. I—even I—cannot do that.

9. I will make more money than black women at equal levels of education and occupation.

My personal experience does not agree with this observation. Get Microsoft’s Tammara Combs Turner on the phone for this one. The women who choose my career and have my qualifications make more money than I do—sometimes dramatically more. I heard about one sister (through my Black female head hunter) who bought a house built by one of Frank Lloyd Wright’s assistants. I blame no one but myself for this—when one has to place blame. My number one problem is that I am Black man—many Black women (and more than one wily brother) know how to take a lot of Eurocentric workplace punishment (because, likely, they took a lot of Afro-centric childhood punishment)—and for those women with the technical chops—they will go far, very far. I have trouble fooling meat-and-potatoes guys that I can stomach their corn-beef-hash aesthetic. I explored this back in 2000 in “Bryan Wilhite: An IT Fundamentalist Speaks.”

Now there are Black women who think (through an ironic mixture of self-limiting egocentrism, racism and sexism) they are just as educated as I am and there are Black women who know that I am more educated and trained than they are—and not one of these Black women have ever expressed any serious lasting praise for my accomplishments. When I achieved I assumed I was achieving for my people and my family—and then myself. I found out the hard, hard way that my achievements are largely seen as self-centered, isolated and individualistic. I have heard similar stories of ambivalence from Black women who return home from college only to be dismissed and avoided.

10. Most of the national “opinion framers” in Black America including talk show hosts and politicians are men.

One Oprah Winfrey is worth 10,000 Tavis Smileys.

Beauty

11. I have the ability to define black women’s beauty by European standards in terms of skin tone, hair, and body size. In comparison, black women rarely define me by European standards of beauty in terms of skin tone, hair, or body size.

This is simply a lie. I have a childhood filled with Black girls identifying my dark skin color as “wrong” in various capacities. Since I actually grew up in a Black working class neighborhood in Los Angeles, my earliest, direct experiences with racism was through these Black girls. And these Black girls are still here to this day. Just because some male-dominated rap videos came out in the last 15 years suddenly it’s us Black men doing all the hating? Hah!

When we just have to get Freudian than know that my mother was flawlessly chocolate—and this is why my light-skinned father was attracted to her. I have my Dad’s taste in women but I also inherited my mother’s view of her dark self through the kind of women I easily attract in my life.

12. I do not have to worry about the daily hassles of having my hair conforming to any standard image of beauty the way black women do.

This is absolutely true. Do read “The Black Hair Thing.”

13. I do not have to worry about the daily hassles of being terrorized by the fear of gaining weight. In fact, in many instances bigger is better for my sex.

I am the child of a mother who was terrorized by her mother about her appearance—including her weight. So even though “I do not have to worry”—my mother was not my servant, she was my mother. And to this day, I can feel her pain. And I largely destroyed much of what “normal” people would call a “normal family life” because of my desire to “save” my mother through relationships with women who were almost supernaturally like my mother. This savior complex of mine was a necessary horror.

14. My looks will not be the central standard by which my worth is valued by members of the opposite sex.

I’m suspicious of this one. As women seek equality with male patriarchal stereotypes, I’m seeing more than a few selecting males for youth and beauty—just like a male would. It is an error to assume that most women—especially properly-assimilated American women—are looking for a companion for some kind of sophisticated psychological experience.

Sex & Sexuality

15. I can purchase pornography that typically shows men defile women by the common practice of the “money shot.”

It is an error to assume that all “healthy” males consume pornography. Serious studies of African history before Islam shows that “healthy” males were indoctrinated into what I call ‘fertility conspiracies’—males were exposed to real, live girls in ritualized, regulated sex games. I understand how totally alien this can be to so-called Afrocentric people—but just perhaps you might understand how this assumption that I consume pornography with “money shots” is insulting to me. I prefer Japanese gravure videos! No nudity and more sexy!

16. I can believe that causing pain during sex is connected with a woman’s pleasure without ever asking her.

I hate this “belief” because it is actually true for women in a love/hate relationship with patriarchy and gluttony. Women have asked me to smack that ass—hard. Now I did not hate to smack that ass but I hate the larger system of lowered sensitivity and confusion. Women are very tough. They largely have higher thresholds of pain than males do—especially me. More than a few women will look down on me for preferring to go slow and gentle with them because they prefer to ride hard most of the time. I’m just keeping it real and letting you know, homes.

17. I have the privilege of not wanting to be a virgin, but preferring that my wife or significant other be a virgin.

I prefer that my wife not have herpes. It is for purely strategic reasons: I do not want to risk an outbreak during pregnancy that might harm our children—and her. I leave all that virginity stuff to wealthy Catholics.

18. When it comes to sex if I say “No”, chances are that it will not be mistaken for “Yes”.

My personality is designed (often against my lustful will) to repulse women who actually do say no and they mean yes. There is no woman sexier than a woman who means yes and can look you straight in the eyes and say, “Yes.” The ideal behind this is that I desire a woman in my life that deliberately chooses to be with me—not one I caught like some soldier riding on horseback in an Indo-European battle field. There are army men and there are family men.

19. If I am raped, no one will assume that “I should have known better” or suggest that my being raped had something to do with how I was dressed.

See “How a Terrifying Moment in Toni Morrison’s Beloved Relates to 1990s Thug Music” and get back to me.

20. I can use sexist language like bonin’, laying the pipe, hittin-it, and banging that convey images of sexual acts based on dominance and performance.

There are army men and there are family men.

21. I can live in a world where polygamy is still an option for men in the United States as well as around the world.

Ousmane Sembène on polygamy:

You have to understand how these women are raised. There’s a real hierarchy—the senior wife, the second wife, and the junior wife. Then the man is the supreme master, so to speak. But, when I say that the man is the supreme master, it is because he believes this. In actuality, the first wife, not the husband, wields the power. People don’t say this, but it’s something that’s unspoken.

That’s why in the context of polygamy in my society, I just see the man as a progenitor—the only role he has is to make babies [laughs]. He has to satisfy his own sexual appetites, but he also has to satisfy the three women’s sexual needs. He’s just a sex machine, so to speak [laughs]. Of course, in this situation there’s inevitably some sort of rivalry between the three wives because they’re often denied sexual satisfaction. And when the man is around, no matter what he’s done during the previous night, he has to perform sexually. To help him perform, the woman feeds him food that functions as an aphrodisiac. Since women know more about these aphrodisiacs than men do, they share their secrets.

22. In general, I prefer being involved with younger women socially and sexually.

I prefer to be with holistically healthy, mature women who can hold a conversation with me. Just read what I have written here and guess what kind of woman you know that would be very eager to talk to me because this woman moves thoughts like gold diggers move mountains. Tell that woman to look me up on Facebook. I won’t hold my breath.

23. In general, the more sexual partners that I have the more stature I receive among my peers.

I do not socialize my sexuality among other males. One might call this behavior of mine “homophobic.” My priority is to get down with one woman several thousand times instead of trying to process several thousand women. It’s a form of yoga—a weird fantasy of co-ed monasticism.

24. I have easy access to pornography that involves virtually any category of sex where men degrade women, often young women.

This is like saying to me that I have “easy access” to bags of refined white sugar to pour directly into my mouth.

25. I have the privilege of being a part of a sex where “purity balls” apply to girls but not to boys.

What the f’ is a “purity ball”? This sounds like teenaged, unregulated American Imperial sex games. There is something known as Imperial Sexuality…

26. When I consume pornography, I can gain pleasure from images and sounds of men causing women pain.

Umm… no.

Popular Culture

27. I come from a tradition of humor that is based largely on insulting and disrespecting women; especially mothers.

The whole point of Black “yo’ momma” jokes is that it actually pisses a real Black man off to have someone talk about his mother. Just because Richard Pryor started a popular movement away from this Black fact has nothing to with me.

28. I have the privilege of not having black women, dress up and play funny characters—often overweight—that are supposed to look like me for the entire nation to laugh.

Tyler Perry had two choices: continue to sleep in his car—because his father would not pay for his education (like mine did)—or dress up like a woman to make white men and Black women laugh. Tyler Perry chose not to sleep in his car. I’m sure Flip Wilson and many others had similar choices. I choose to not call that shit a “privilege.”

29. When I go to the movies, I know that most of the leads in black films are men. I also know that all of the action heroes in black film are men.

Halle Berry will never be another Cleopatra Jones.

30. I can easily imagine that most of the artists in Hip Hop are members of my sex.

I try not to imagine what has become of Hip Hop. Remember that sister in Digable Planets? I wanted LadyBug so bad…

31. I can easily imagine that most of the women that appear in Hip Hop videos are there solely to please men.

I’m still imagining me with LadyBug… hol’ up…

32. Most of lyrics I listen to in hip-hop perpetuate the ideas of males dominating women, sexually and socially.

So what. It sucks. White kids buy it. Next!

33. I have the privilege of consuming and popularizing the word pimp, which is based on the exploitation of women with virtually no opposition from other men.

So what. It sucks. White kids buy it. Next!

34. I can hear and use language bitches and hoes that demean women, with virtually no opposition from men.

So what. It sucks. White kids buy it. Next!

35. I can wear a shirt that others and I commonly refer to as a “wife beater” and never have the language challenged.

So what. It sucks. White kids buy it. Next!

36. Many of my favorite movies include images of strength that do not include members of the opposite sex and often are based on violence.

One of my favorite movies is in “Flippant Remarks about the Double Life of Véronique.”

37. Many of my favorite genres of films, such as martial arts, are based on violence.

There are army men and there are family men.

38. I have the privilege of popularizing or consuming the idea of a thug, which is based on the violence and victimization of others with virtually no opposition from other men.

There are army men and there are family men.

Attitudes/Ideology

39. I have the privilege to define black women as having “an attitude” without referencing the range of attitudes that black women have.

I think I wade into this deep water very well in “My Three Sexist Assumptions of the Apocalypse.”

40. I have the privilege of defining black women’s attitudes without defining my attitudes as a black man.

This is not so much a Black male privilege as the blindness of egocentrism. Also, I can assure you that I have been expressing my imperfections quite well on this Blog for years and I can only remember one Black woman on this entire planet that responded to me with any form of comprehensive support. She writes “Beautiful, Also, are the Souls of My Black Sisters”—I also recognize attention from The Black Snob. Other than that most of my people are too busy being oppressed or too young to know to care—to care not just for me but for others online (and in the bricks and mortar) as well…

41. I can believe that the success of the black family is dependent on returning men to their historical place within the family, rather than in promoting policies that strengthen black women’s independence, or that provide social benefits to black children.

This item is too deeply invested in European death models to address effectively in the space that I provide myself here.

42. I have the privilege of believing that a woman cannot raise a son to be a man.

This is not a “privilege”—this is a tragedy. No child should spend their formative years influenced by the eyes of one person—especially when the child is male and the parent is a female that deeply “knows” that males are foundationally animalistic and inferior. I’m not here to “debate” this shit with you. It takes a village to raise a child. This shit we are living now is not civilization so it should not be talked about too much…

43. I have the privilege of believing that a woman must submit to her man.

Shut the f’ up. My experience is of the deeper confusion where the woman—especially the Black woman—wants to submit to her man in bizarre, slavish ways that reminds me of my very unpopular opinion of Kara Walker.

There is no greater privilege in my life than to be chosen again and again as a companion by a free, powerful, healthy, wise woman of color. The reason why I distinguish women of color is because of the monumental physical and metaphysical obstacles they have to overcome to be truly free in thought. In the same manner that the male penis goes deep into the physical body, yes, we can go deep into the non-physical body of the woman. Too many women are too, too quick to deny what I am implying here—because what I have seen in the souls of ‘my’ women are imbroglios that truly baffle.

44. I have the privilege of believing that before slavery gender relationships between black men and women were perfect.

Really. Shut the f’ up. The end of the world started when Upper and Lower Egypt was unified. Anything after, is all that indigenous woman-centric cultures built being unraveled and degraded. Yes, it took thousands of years—and here we are…

45. I have the privilege of believing that feminism is anti-black.

Get bell hooks on the phone and get back to me.

46. I have the privilege of believing that the failure of the black family is due to the black matriarchy.

This is literally perverse. This item is of a trend that implies that Black male “privilege” identifies with white male privilege. This is just wrong.

47. I have the privilege of believing that household responsibilities are women’s roles.

First of all, few people that I know actually have a household. Secondly, too many women I know can barely keep a structured domicile for themselves let alone for another person (including children).

Homemaking is a technical skill. Think of how much money fake-ass Martha Stewart has made and perhaps we can have a materialistic idea of how much homemaking is worth in both males and females. Find me an African male—from Africa—that cannot cook and you are probably showing me the son of a cleptocratic, Eurocentric family.

48. I have the privilege of believing that black women are different sexually than other women and judging them negatively based on this belief.

My guess is that this item mixes two debilitating influences on the sexuality of Black women: the traditional need to suppress open, honest sexuality to prevent rape and murder during the era of legal American slavery and the white missionary tradition of suppressing female sexuality that still runs the Black church to this day.

My other guess is that this item suggests that we Black males have the “privilege” to “escape” these debilitating influences on Black women by having more ‘open,’ ‘honest’ sex with women from different so-called “races.”

Many Black men who have spoken to me about this do not consider this a “privilege” but, at best, an “alternative” and at worst the last resort. Do remember that the Black men that speak to me (about these personal issues) are not famous Hollywood actors, investment bankers, sports stars or any celebrity of any kind.

What about me? I have yet to have a serious, adult, long-lasting relationship with a non-Black woman. That does not mean I have not tried! Hey! Look me up on Facebook, G!

Sports

I am just going to avoid covering the sports section point by point. I just have two comments: one is that women have the right to be dumb jocks too. And, two, I do remember playing soccer (football) in the park on a hot summer day with a beautiful Haitian-American woman named Fay Jasmine Walker. She became seriously angry when I took my shirt off because she knew she could not take hers off. She also knew that she was physically fit and very comfortable with her chocolate-body self-image. I felt so strongly for her that I put my shirt back on… I have told this story to many other women—many of whom not as physically fit as Jasmine—and these ladies aggressively don’t care to know just what the big deal was…

Diaspora/Global

61. I have the privilege of being a part of a sex where the mutilation and disfigurement of a girl’s genitalia is used to deny her sexual sensations or to protect her virginity for males.

Again this is not a “privilege”—this is just ostentatious sarcasm.

62. I have the privilege of not having rape be used as a primary tactic or tool to terrorize my sex during war and times of conflict.

More ostentatious sarcasm.

63. I have the privilege of not being able to name one female leader in Africa or Asia, past or present, that I pay homage to the way I do male leaders in Africa and/or Asia.

Ancient Japan was ruled by women. I tend to remember this quite frequently. In Africa, in the Old Kingdom, the women chose the male king. Sounds complicated but the bottom line is that women ruled in composition with men.

64. I have the ability to travel around the world and have access to women in developing countries both sexually and socially.

I mentioned “Flippant Remarks about the ‘mass exodus of African American male tourists to Brazil’” earlier.

65. I have the privilege of being a part of the sex that starts wars and that wields control of almost all the existing weapons of war and mass destruction.

Again, the author too easily confuses white patriarchy with traditional African manhood. I understand how easy it is to do this, but he should stop. Stopping this will make him a better person but he will get fewer dates with the population of properly-assimilated women and their confused, malformed love/hate of patriarchy.

66. In college, I will have the opportunity to date outside of the race at a much higher rate than black women will.

Black women actually shunned me at UCSB. There were so few of them there. Remember those girls with the skin color issues? They did not disappear—as much as they would like to deny it. At 21, I married a Latina. She was brown like my mother… but still, to this day, very white (self-alienated) on the inside…

67. I have the privilege of having the phrase “sewing my wild oats” apply to my sex as if it were natural.

Please. Go make me some ho’ cakes.

68. I know that the further I go in education the more success I will have with women.

Wrong! Very wrong. It’s the money that you get from an education that attracts many women—not the education itself. Only one Black woman talked to me at length about how aroused she got when she began to feel my thoughts. Those were the good ol’ days…

69. In college, black male professors will be involved in interracial marriages at much higher rates than members of the opposite sex will.

Okay… you are losing your liberal, Negro audience with this one…

70. By the time I enter college, and even through college, I have the privilege of not having to worry whether I will be able to marry a black woman.

This is just a fucking joke. I’m living proof. Check this: “Flippant Remarks about ‘Getting the Love You Want’.”

71. In college, I will experience a level of status and prestige that is not offered to black women even though black women may outnumber me and out perform me academically.

Yes, I wish I went to Howard instead of UCSB.

72. If I go to an HBCU, I will have incredible opportunities to exploit black women.

Yes, I wish I went to Howard instead of UCSB. I would have had my savior complex turned up to 11. Supposedly, to this day, I would have a fiercely devoted young, educated, healthy Black woman at my side because she would have known that I was actually serious about the power of woman—instead of the old, bitter, cynical bats flying around me today thinking they are “smart” for not taking me seriously. Instead, I went to school in Ronald Reagan’s backyard.

Communication/Language

73. What is defined as “News” in Black America is defined by men.

This item is of a trend that implies that Black male “privilege” identifies with white male privilege.

74. I can choose to be emotionally withdrawn and not communicate in a relationships and it be considered unfortunate but normal.

My experience is that “normal” women prefer this. I have memories of women wanting to talk—but it’s actually them doing most of the talking. I am very serious about being a poet so what I say makes too many women want to make me shut f’ up. When I speak, I speak to penetrate. I know that sounds like more male violence but it depends on how the penetration is done and the quality of the surface being breached.

75. I can dismissively refer to another persons grievances as ^*ing.

This is more white shit in Negro form. Very annoying and not me… When you find me dismissing you, this is after I tried to talk to you—several times. Remember those women who literally asked to have their asses slapped I mentioned earlier? These tough ladies can’t feel it when someone is actually trying to speak with them. Often, through past sexist experiences, that don’t have damn thang to do with me, these ladies are over-prepared not to be heard and are underprepared and ill-equipped to actually have the conversation. Again, I refer you to “My Three Sexist Assumptions of the Apocalypse.”

76. I have the privilege of not knowing what words and concepts like patriarchy, phallocentric, complicity, colluding, and obfuscation mean.

Yeah, that’s me—or you can’t read. In the past, too many women would rather think of themselves as literate and educated, while I permanently remain, to this day, a complete idiot. Do I sound bitter, sweetie? This honestly does not anger me because I have seen what kind intimate relationships some of these “smart” women have (or never have) and then I learn something new about poverty in the world.

Relationships

77. I have the privilege of marrying outside of the race at a much higher rate than black women marry.

To be blunt, many Black women (especially the younger ones) are not truly, deeply upset about Black men marrying women of European origin. What pisses some sisters off is Black men with Asian women—one bad theory for this is that many Asian women do not meet the European beauty standard that rules so many of our lives—so why would a Black man be attracted?

78. My “strength” as a man is never connected with the failure of the black family, whereas the strength of black women is routinely associated with the failure of the black family.

This statement of “privilege” is just gay.

79. If I am considering a divorce, I know that I have substantially more marriage, and cohabitation options than my spouse.

Yes, but by the way she act—she does not know this… that’s just the horror that is patriarchy—and it is too easy to find women that will consciously and non-consciously defend it.

80. Chances are I will be defined as a “good man” by things I do not do as much as what I do. If I don’t beat, cheat, or lie, then I am a considered a “good man”. In comparison, women are rarely defined as “good women” based on what they do not do.

In my experience, these are “privileges” women (who will consciously and non-consciously defend patriarchy) impose upon males.

81. I have the privilege of not having to assume most of the household or child-care responsibilities.

Again, in my experience, these are “privileges” women (who will consciously and non-consciously defend patriarchy) impose upon males. My mother was not playing that shit. I can run a house better than most sets of three women combined. Women, largely, do not praise me for this. They got too many f’ed up problems to go around praising people all the time.

82. I have the privilege of having not been raised with domestic responsibilities of cooking, cleaning, and washing that takes up disproportionately more time as adults.

Wrong. It is because of these domestic skills that makes me proud even arrogant. This power is part of an aesthetic that I value—like ancient priests cleaning the temple.

Church & Religious Traditions

83. In the Black Church, the majority of the pastoral leadership is male.

Check.

84. In the Black Church Tradition, most of the theology has a male point of view. For example, most will assume that the man is the head of household.

Check.

Physical Safety

85. I do not have to worry about being considered a traitor to my race if I call the police on a member of the opposite sex.

The framing of this item is just flawed. Most Black men don’t even want to see the police—on a television.

86. I have the privilege of knowing men who are physically or sexually abusive to women and yet I still call them friends.

Naw… not really… you can have a friend from childhood that you are real close to but as this child grows older into a male adult they sometimes admit things in passing that weakens the bond… as time passes the bond gets weaker…

87. I can video tape women in public—often without their consent—with male complicity.

Again, I do not share my sexuality with males as some kind ritual of “bonding”—I was not into team sports that much while growing up.

88. I can be courteous to a person of the opposite sex that I do not know and say “Hello” or “Hi” and not fear that it will be taken as a come-on or fear being stalked because of it.

I actually hate—deeply hate—the fact that a lone woman cannot stop me on the street and introduce herself to me because most are afraid of being physically violated. When we simply must be racist about this matter, I notice that “white” women are the most comfortable with this rare behavior—and this also makes me angry (because this is one way some Black men think life is better apart from Black women—and “white” women often do this in ‘exclusive situations’ where the socioeconomics often bar Black women from the scene).

89. I can use physical violence or the threat of physical violence to get what I want when other tactics fail in a relationship.

I have never done this—but I know that (especially in my younger days) some women actually wanted me to be like this. This is because some women under patriarchy only have materialistic/physical concepts of strength and dominance. And they want to have the wartime experience of being with a “real” man.

90. If I get into a physical altercation with a person of the opposite sex, I will most likely be able to impose my will physically on that person.

In my little world of unpopularity, the greatest “punishment” I have for a woman is to “banish” her. I’m one of those strange people that actually thinks a woman is pleased simply by being in my presence—and to take that away from her is violence enough… This punishment is not very effective but, by habit, it’s all I have… maybe I should teach myself to body slam people…

91. I can go to parades or other public events and not worry about being physically and sexually molested by persons of the opposite sex.

Have you been to West Hollywood on the wrong day?

92. I can touch and physically grope women’s bodies in public—often without their consent—with male complicity.

There are army men and there are family men.

93. In general, I have the freedom to travel in the night without fear.

Yes. And I cannot stand people who live in fear. But many men who travel the streets of Iraq at night are very afraid.

94. I am able to be out in public without fear of being sexually harassed by individuals or groups of the opposite sex.

Have you been to West Hollywood on the wrong day? I may be forty but I’m still pretty, baby! Snap! Snap! Snap!

Photograph of a Female Pop Star

Little Miss Sunshine Rihanna going out to dinner... This snapshot of a black pop star should be the reference photo for an oil painting. I know there has to be a living artist somewhere on the planet doing European classical/romantic/rococo oil paintings of contemporary subjects—like an exquisitely detailed rendering of a small woman in a huge SUV. This moment in time with the pop star captures the depths of her capacity to continue to be human. This expression of poise on her face should be regarded as unexpected by the many millions who have seen her flash her buttocks on stage. This visage is what parents expect to see in their adult children when they are pleased with the complex maturity that grew out of their crib. But I doubt that few parents plan to see their child on stage flashing her ass (especially parents from Barbados). Why do I sound like some bitter old man “hating” on this?

I challenge you, you person of wisdom, grace and love, to find ten women of African descent born and raised in the United States that look just as “good” as this pop star—just as physically fit (with the same body weight)—just as poised—who hold advanced degrees in the sciences. What pisses me off is that the patriarchal process of socialization damn-near forces such an intelligent-looking woman to shake her money maker. Not every extremely attractive woman—especially Black women—should end up in some line of business where the sale of her body is relevant. Instead of sipping on an iced drink from a red straw, saying “whatever” and moving on, when you really dig deep into this issue you will find me standing there singing strange funk songs to myself. It really irks me, lady, when you want to start looking into this after you get old and ugly.

Here are a few selections from the Bryan Wilhite house of mourning:

Buy this Book at Amazon.com! You see, kids, being a ‘traditional’ American pop star is like being a martial artist without taking Qigong: in the short term, you will kick much ass but in the end there is too often no preparation for old age. So this ‘flower of youth’ image of Rihanna is always tragic-looking to me. I am the grandchild of this style of beauty—and I spent my formative years living with a super-fine woman’s dramatic decline. I guess I must be biased. You do the science my fellow Americans: find the 10 women!

So here are some female pop star questions for which I have some post-pubescent answers:

Female Pop Star: I know you want me. Don’t you? Ha!

rasx(): No one can actually have you. Sometimes you may look at a photo of yourself and talk about the person in the photo like the person is not you. You are too much for one person but not enough for two. You bring misery into the world through the awesome power of desire. It is a delicious misery that people are willing to pay money for… so go collect bills, baby girl…

Female Pop Star: Can you see me having fun?

rasx(): I see you at work. I respect your dedication to a task. I had a full childhood. I know what fun is…

Female Pop Star: Don’t you understand that I am helping young people dream?

rasx(): You are helping young people lose themselves in your expensive productions. There are dreams of self-empowerment and there are dreams of captivity. You are taking part in an unspoken agreement that basically says, “You people ain’t shit and I am the shit. You can never be me so why not pay money to see me?” Your lifestyle burns so much resources that it is scientifically impossible for every person on Earth to “live” like you do. You are effectively demanding that there must be a privileged minority that has the “right” to waste while the rest of the world watches you with envy.

Female Pop Star: (Playfully, sarcastically) Huh? What did you say?

rasx(): Girl, go get that paper! Is you doing your thang? You got to use what you got to get just what you want. Smokin’!

Buy this Book at Amazon.com! Female Pop Star: Are you trying to put me out of business so I can’t be an independent woman? Are you a little baby trying to cripple me?

rasx(): I ain’t go’ lie to you. You are a very sexy mama. But my little fetish is getting a body like you at a discount or not at all—I want to get off with you without telling a single lie… I even dare to “dream” that a woman like you would actually seek out me! Weird, huh? So dig: Vandana Shiva is an independent woman. Wangari Maathai is an independent woman. As of this afternoon, Janelle Monàe is an independent woman. Save your money. Don’t go into debt in order to look like you are “rich” to people that are “poor.” Even L.L. Cool J drove around in a bucket well after he blew up. Your biological clock is ticking in a world ruled by recessive-gene patriarchs from a fictional alien planet. Save your money, G.

Female Pop Star: You so crazy! Ha! Ha! Look. I got to go.

rasx(): She ain’t conscientious about her talk! She don’t give a damn about her walk! She puts the f in afterthought. But when it comes to funk, she never faults. She don’t claim to be a super freak. She just wanna dance to a freaky beat. She don’t claim to be another girl. She don’t claim to be a girl o’ the world. She ain’t a girl o’ the world. Girl ain’t a cover girl. She ain’t a girl o’ the world. Girl ain’t a cover girl. She ain’t a girl o’ the world. Girl ain’t a cover girl…

By the time rasx() finishes singing the song the Female Pop Star waves, smiling… walking away turning back like a trained dancer, she walks some more, dances sexy a little and gets in the car waiting for her in front of the hotel. Her driver pulls off. The young white dude working behind the desk in the lobby claps for me. This makes the security guard posted behind me a few feet away relax. I bow for both of them and walk to the upper-floor elevators.