Singles Day
When a man spends most of his time in close physical contact with a person that is not interested in his technical interests, this lack of concern will be the cause of conflict from verbal abuse to worse. Only through the magical thinking of patriarchy (and religion) does a man think this will not happen. And the sex-robot trope will continue to show up in his storytelling.The solution to this dilemma seems simple: only get close to people who are interested in your technical interests. But this simplicity ignores, again, the power of patriarchy and the disease of competition. A man’s technical interests are usually colored by gender politics: because of imprisoning gender roles, women are rarely on the same page—and this includes highly educated women. And the women that are on the technical playing field are mostly there to compete vigorously to establish a self-made, revenge-based identity—not to collaborate.
This leaves a very small population of authentic, would-be partners for a man’s technical interests. Now try to find the “women of color” in this population. Now try to find the Black women in this population.
The “dark,” secular, real-world solution to this problem is a man’s patriarchal-based insensitivity to his partner (which is often ironic in a modern, virtue-signaling-feminist context). He will need at least two faces to keep the partnership going—and both faces should need financial incentives to be worth the time to look upon (unless, of course, the traditional gender roles are “reversed”). And this is one way toward the phrase, “Nice guys never win,” because the “game” requires a hardened, seasoned veteran (usually trained from birth) with immaculate respect for the contradicting rules. The “nice” guy is just an ignorant person, completely unaware that the game is in play.But even veterans of the game burn out—and these are some of the symptoms:
- An unbalanced interest in showing your partnership to a “society” rather than privately retiring to be in it.
- Extreme feelings of loneliness during the pregnancy that results from his partnership.
- Rituals of passive aggression toward the partner: she’s honking the horn and he is putting on his socks very, very slowly.
- Fantasizing the killing (or the premature death) of the partner that comedians make much fun of…