The Jewel Woods “Black Male Privilege” Checklist

Jewel Woods is male. Let’s get that straight. And, without him, I would not have been able to write “Flippant Remarks about the ‘mass exodus of African American male tourists to Brazil’.” So I think it is my Blog-civic duty to respond to (almost) all 94 of the items on “The Black Male Privileges Checklist” (hat-tip to Liberator Magazine for letting me know about this). I do this heavily under the influence that my opinion does not truly matter to the people who should care the most: that would be Black women in particular and contemporary, urban women in general. Too many women are too busy being oppressed (and I just wrote those words in this sentence without any sarcasm) and making conscious/subconscious plans of revenge against male monsters to care about what this “monster” has to say.

The eye of my imagination sees so clearly a woman 100 years from now reading my poem, “void this misogyny,” being driven to tears with the desire to meet me and talk to me because suddenly I am so interesting. Well, guess what lady: 100 years from now I’ll be dead! And I have been using the most advanced communication technology in the history of the white world for over a decade and I have yet to discover any example of this tool being used to its fullest—especially in the world of literary arts. So in an effort to contribute to the future—because the future is always better (as it selects for African genes)—here are my responsible responses:

Leadership & Politics

1. I don’t have to choose my race over my sex in political matters.

“Political matters” is in the marketing department of the business. I’m in the technical department. The very concept of politics and the polloi are foreign to the real me. “Race” is not a real concept for me. Next.

2. When I read African American History textbooks, I will learn mainly about black men.

African American History textbooks are secondary to me. African History has always been my primary concern—even before Michael Jordan (and his dark complexion) became popular with ‘my’ women. African history is about African women. You can spot a pseudo-African snake-oil dealer real quick when he starts talking about Black power without a concern for the English language and no serious prioritization of the regeneration of wisdom-communities of women of color. There is no frickin’ way in the world a group of wise, strong African women would treat me like the shit that supposedly I am according to properly-assimilated “real world” women. So clearly I am biased toward all of us studying the world of wise women. For an example, see “Vandana Shiva: Planting Seeds for Change.”

3. When I learn about the Civil Rights Movement & the Black Power Movements, most of the leaders that I will learn about will be black men.

This item is just like item #2 only framed differently. In addition, here is an excerpt from “My Three Sexist Assumptions of the Apocalypse”:

For you other Negro asses out there who just happen to be reading this, you should have no motherfucking problem recognizing that the Civil Rights Movement is founded upon the social organizing principles of women of African descent. Yes, you want to credit some Negro preacher man in a suit and you want to credit some Quakerly Jewish lawyer but nothing would have happened without organized Black women.

4. I can rely on the fact that in the near 100-year history of national civil rights organizations such as the NAACP and the Urban League, virtually all of the executive directors have been male.

Read these words carefully, written by an award-winning ACT-SO finalist (in poetry of course): f’ the NAACP! The Garveyite bottom line is this: the NAACP was not allowed to own land. It was in the original charter. So, from the beginning, the organization was not designed to grow any real influence or real power. So whatever manhood is in the organization it is no greater than my manhood because at this time I hold no real estate investments outside of a squalid REIT.

5. I will be taken more seriously as a political leader than black women.

I immediately assume that this is reference to mainstream (“white”) authority figures taking seriously. Secondarily, I assume this refers to Black church leaders’ realm of influence. These two populations are temporal to me—these are not of the everlasting so not a concern for me. Get Cynthia McKinney on the phone for this one. I’ll respect her need to talk about this issue.

6. Despite the substantial role that black women played in the Civil Rights Movement and Black Power Movement, currently there is no black female that is considered a “race leader”.

Oprah Winfrey turned that one down in exchange for a larger viewing audience.

7. I can live my life without ever having read black feminist authors, or knowing about black women’s history, or black women’s issues.

This is more toward “American privilege” than Black male privilege. For more details, see “Photograph of Gayl Jones.”

8. I can be a part of a black liberation organization like the Black Panther Party where an “out” rapist Eldridge Cleaver can assume leadership position.

No. I—even I—cannot do that.

9. I will make more money than black women at equal levels of education and occupation.

My personal experience does not agree with this observation. Get Microsoft’s Tammara Combs Turner on the phone for this one. The women who choose my career and have my qualifications make more money than I do—sometimes dramatically more. I heard about one sister (through my Black female head hunter) who bought a house built by one of Frank Lloyd Wright’s assistants. I blame no one but myself for this—when one has to place blame. My number one problem is that I am Black man—many Black women (and more than one wily brother) know how to take a lot of Eurocentric workplace punishment (because, likely, they took a lot of Afro-centric childhood punishment)—and for those women with the technical chops—they will go far, very far. I have trouble fooling meat-and-potatoes guys that I can stomach their corn-beef-hash aesthetic. I explored this back in 2000 in “Bryan Wilhite: An IT Fundamentalist Speaks.”

Now there are Black women who think (through an ironic mixture of self-limiting egocentrism, racism and sexism) they are just as educated as I am and there are Black women who know that I am more educated and trained than they are—and not one of these Black women have ever expressed any serious lasting praise for my accomplishments. When I achieved I assumed I was achieving for my people and my family—and then myself. I found out the hard, hard way that my achievements are largely seen as self-centered, isolated and individualistic. I have heard similar stories of ambivalence from Black women who return home from college only to be dismissed and avoided.

10. Most of the national “opinion framers” in Black America including talk show hosts and politicians are men.

One Oprah Winfrey is worth 10,000 Tavis Smileys.

Beauty

11. I have the ability to define black women’s beauty by European standards in terms of skin tone, hair, and body size. In comparison, black women rarely define me by European standards of beauty in terms of skin tone, hair, or body size.

This is simply a lie. I have a childhood filled with Black girls identifying my dark skin color as “wrong” in various capacities. Since I actually grew up in a Black working class neighborhood in Los Angeles, my earliest, direct experiences with racism was through these Black girls. And these Black girls are still here to this day. Just because some male-dominated rap videos came out in the last 15 years suddenly it’s us Black men doing all the hating? Hah!

When we just have to get Freudian than know that my mother was flawlessly chocolate—and this is why my light-skinned father was attracted to her. I have my Dad’s taste in women but I also inherited my mother’s view of her dark self through the kind of women I easily attract in my life.

12. I do not have to worry about the daily hassles of having my hair conforming to any standard image of beauty the way black women do.

This is absolutely true. Do read “The Black Hair Thing.”

13. I do not have to worry about the daily hassles of being terrorized by the fear of gaining weight. In fact, in many instances bigger is better for my sex.

I am the child of a mother who was terrorized by her mother about her appearance—including her weight. So even though “I do not have to worry”—my mother was not my servant, she was my mother. And to this day, I can feel her pain. And I largely destroyed much of what “normal” people would call a “normal family life” because of my desire to “save” my mother through relationships with women who were almost supernaturally like my mother. This savior complex of mine was a necessary horror.

14. My looks will not be the central standard by which my worth is valued by members of the opposite sex.

I’m suspicious of this one. As women seek equality with male patriarchal stereotypes, I’m seeing more than a few selecting males for youth and beauty—just like a male would. It is an error to assume that most women—especially properly-assimilated American women—are looking for a companion for some kind of sophisticated psychological experience.

Sex & Sexuality

15. I can purchase pornography that typically shows men defile women by the common practice of the “money shot.”

It is an error to assume that all “healthy” males consume pornography. Serious studies of African history before Islam shows that “healthy” males were indoctrinated into what I call ‘fertility conspiracies’—males were exposed to real, live girls in ritualized, regulated sex games. I understand how totally alien this can be to so-called Afrocentric people—but just perhaps you might understand how this assumption that I consume pornography with “money shots” is insulting to me. I prefer Japanese gravure videos! No nudity and more sexy!

16. I can believe that causing pain during sex is connected with a woman’s pleasure without ever asking her.

I hate this “belief” because it is actually true for women in a love/hate relationship with patriarchy and gluttony. Women have asked me to smack that ass—hard. Now I did not hate to smack that ass but I hate the larger system of lowered sensitivity and confusion. Women are very tough. They largely have higher thresholds of pain than males do—especially me. More than a few women will look down on me for preferring to go slow and gentle with them because they prefer to ride hard most of the time. I’m just keeping it real and letting you know, homes.

17. I have the privilege of not wanting to be a virgin, but preferring that my wife or significant other be a virgin.

I prefer that my wife not have herpes. It is for purely strategic reasons: I do not want to risk an outbreak during pregnancy that might harm our children—and her. I leave all that virginity stuff to wealthy Catholics.

18. When it comes to sex if I say “No”, chances are that it will not be mistaken for “Yes”.

My personality is designed (often against my lustful will) to repulse women who actually do say no and they mean yes. There is no woman sexier than a woman who means yes and can look you straight in the eyes and say, “Yes.” The ideal behind this is that I desire a woman in my life that deliberately chooses to be with me—not one I caught like some soldier riding on horseback in an Indo-European battle field. There are army men and there are family men.

19. If I am raped, no one will assume that “I should have known better” or suggest that my being raped had something to do with how I was dressed.

See “How a Terrifying Moment in Toni Morrison’s Beloved Relates to 1990s Thug Music” and get back to me.

20. I can use sexist language like bonin’, laying the pipe, hittin-it, and banging that convey images of sexual acts based on dominance and performance.

There are army men and there are family men.

21. I can live in a world where polygamy is still an option for men in the United States as well as around the world.

Ousmane Sembène on polygamy:

You have to understand how these women are raised. There’s a real hierarchy—the senior wife, the second wife, and the junior wife. Then the man is the supreme master, so to speak. But, when I say that the man is the supreme master, it is because he believes this. In actuality, the first wife, not the husband, wields the power. People don’t say this, but it’s something that’s unspoken.

That’s why in the context of polygamy in my society, I just see the man as a progenitor—the only role he has is to make babies [laughs]. He has to satisfy his own sexual appetites, but he also has to satisfy the three women’s sexual needs. He’s just a sex machine, so to speak [laughs]. Of course, in this situation there’s inevitably some sort of rivalry between the three wives because they’re often denied sexual satisfaction. And when the man is around, no matter what he’s done during the previous night, he has to perform sexually. To help him perform, the woman feeds him food that functions as an aphrodisiac. Since women know more about these aphrodisiacs than men do, they share their secrets.

22. In general, I prefer being involved with younger women socially and sexually.

I prefer to be with holistically healthy, mature women who can hold a conversation with me. Just read what I have written here and guess what kind of woman you know that would be very eager to talk to me because this woman moves thoughts like gold diggers move mountains. Tell that woman to look me up on Facebook. I won’t hold my breath.

23. In general, the more sexual partners that I have the more stature I receive among my peers.

I do not socialize my sexuality among other males. One might call this behavior of mine “homophobic.” My priority is to get down with one woman several thousand times instead of trying to process several thousand women. It’s a form of yoga—a weird fantasy of co-ed monasticism.

24. I have easy access to pornography that involves virtually any category of sex where men degrade women, often young women.

This is like saying to me that I have “easy access” to bags of refined white sugar to pour directly into my mouth.

25. I have the privilege of being a part of a sex where “purity balls” apply to girls but not to boys.

What the f’ is a “purity ball”? This sounds like teenaged, unregulated American Imperial sex games. There is something known as Imperial Sexuality…

26. When I consume pornography, I can gain pleasure from images and sounds of men causing women pain.

Umm… no.

Popular Culture

27. I come from a tradition of humor that is based largely on insulting and disrespecting women; especially mothers.

The whole point of Black “yo’ momma” jokes is that it actually pisses a real Black man off to have someone talk about his mother. Just because Richard Pryor started a popular movement away from this Black fact has nothing to with me.

28. I have the privilege of not having black women, dress up and play funny characters—often overweight—that are supposed to look like me for the entire nation to laugh.

Tyler Perry had two choices: continue to sleep in his car—because his father would not pay for his education (like mine did)—or dress up like a woman to make white men and Black women laugh. Tyler Perry chose not to sleep in his car. I’m sure Flip Wilson and many others had similar choices. I choose to not call that shit a “privilege.”

29. When I go to the movies, I know that most of the leads in black films are men. I also know that all of the action heroes in black film are men.

Halle Berry will never be another Cleopatra Jones.

30. I can easily imagine that most of the artists in Hip Hop are members of my sex.

I try not to imagine what has become of Hip Hop. Remember that sister in Digable Planets? I wanted LadyBug so bad…

31. I can easily imagine that most of the women that appear in Hip Hop videos are there solely to please men.

I’m still imagining me with LadyBug… hol’ up…

32. Most of lyrics I listen to in hip-hop perpetuate the ideas of males dominating women, sexually and socially.

So what. It sucks. White kids buy it. Next!

33. I have the privilege of consuming and popularizing the word pimp, which is based on the exploitation of women with virtually no opposition from other men.

So what. It sucks. White kids buy it. Next!

34. I can hear and use language bitches and hoes that demean women, with virtually no opposition from men.

So what. It sucks. White kids buy it. Next!

35. I can wear a shirt that others and I commonly refer to as a “wife beater” and never have the language challenged.

So what. It sucks. White kids buy it. Next!

36. Many of my favorite movies include images of strength that do not include members of the opposite sex and often are based on violence.

One of my favorite movies is in “Flippant Remarks about the Double Life of Véronique.”

37. Many of my favorite genres of films, such as martial arts, are based on violence.

There are army men and there are family men.

38. I have the privilege of popularizing or consuming the idea of a thug, which is based on the violence and victimization of others with virtually no opposition from other men.

There are army men and there are family men.

Attitudes/Ideology

39. I have the privilege to define black women as having “an attitude” without referencing the range of attitudes that black women have.

I think I wade into this deep water very well in “My Three Sexist Assumptions of the Apocalypse.”

40. I have the privilege of defining black women’s attitudes without defining my attitudes as a black man.

This is not so much a Black male privilege as the blindness of egocentrism. Also, I can assure you that I have been expressing my imperfections quite well on this Blog for years and I can only remember one Black woman on this entire planet that responded to me with any form of comprehensive support. She writes “Beautiful, Also, are the Souls of My Black Sisters”—I also recognize attention from The Black Snob. Other than that most of my people are too busy being oppressed or too young to know to care—to care not just for me but for others online (and in the bricks and mortar) as well…

41. I can believe that the success of the black family is dependent on returning men to their historical place within the family, rather than in promoting policies that strengthen black women’s independence, or that provide social benefits to black children.

This item is too deeply invested in European death models to address effectively in the space that I provide myself here.

42. I have the privilege of believing that a woman cannot raise a son to be a man.

This is not a “privilege”—this is a tragedy. No child should spend their formative years influenced by the eyes of one person—especially when the child is male and the parent is a female that deeply “knows” that males are foundationally animalistic and inferior. I’m not here to “debate” this shit with you. It takes a village to raise a child. This shit we are living now is not civilization so it should not be talked about too much…

43. I have the privilege of believing that a woman must submit to her man.

Shut the f’ up. My experience is of the deeper confusion where the woman—especially the Black woman—wants to submit to her man in bizarre, slavish ways that reminds me of my very unpopular opinion of Kara Walker.

There is no greater privilege in my life than to be chosen again and again as a companion by a free, powerful, healthy, wise woman of color. The reason why I distinguish women of color is because of the monumental physical and metaphysical obstacles they have to overcome to be truly free in thought. In the same manner that the male penis goes deep into the physical body, yes, we can go deep into the non-physical body of the woman. Too many women are too, too quick to deny what I am implying here—because what I have seen in the souls of ‘my’ women are imbroglios that truly baffle.

44. I have the privilege of believing that before slavery gender relationships between black men and women were perfect.

Really. Shut the f’ up. The end of the world started when Upper and Lower Egypt was unified. Anything after, is all that indigenous woman-centric cultures built being unraveled and degraded. Yes, it took thousands of years—and here we are…

45. I have the privilege of believing that feminism is anti-black.

Get bell hooks on the phone and get back to me.

46. I have the privilege of believing that the failure of the black family is due to the black matriarchy.

This is literally perverse. This item is of a trend that implies that Black male “privilege” identifies with white male privilege. This is just wrong.

47. I have the privilege of believing that household responsibilities are women’s roles.

First of all, few people that I know actually have a household. Secondly, too many women I know can barely keep a structured domicile for themselves let alone for another person (including children).

Homemaking is a technical skill. Think of how much money fake-ass Martha Stewart has made and perhaps we can have a materialistic idea of how much homemaking is worth in both males and females. Find me an African male—from Africa—that cannot cook and you are probably showing me the son of a cleptocratic, Eurocentric family.

48. I have the privilege of believing that black women are different sexually than other women and judging them negatively based on this belief.

My guess is that this item mixes two debilitating influences on the sexuality of Black women: the traditional need to suppress open, honest sexuality to prevent rape and murder during the era of legal American slavery and the white missionary tradition of suppressing female sexuality that still runs the Black church to this day.

My other guess is that this item suggests that we Black males have the “privilege” to “escape” these debilitating influences on Black women by having more ‘open,’ ‘honest’ sex with women from different so-called “races.”

Many Black men who have spoken to me about this do not consider this a “privilege” but, at best, an “alternative” and at worst the last resort. Do remember that the Black men that speak to me (about these personal issues) are not famous Hollywood actors, investment bankers, sports stars or any celebrity of any kind.

What about me? I have yet to have a serious, adult, long-lasting relationship with a non-Black woman. That does not mean I have not tried! Hey! Look me up on Facebook, G!

Sports

I am just going to avoid covering the sports section point by point. I just have two comments: one is that women have the right to be dumb jocks too. And, two, I do remember playing soccer (football) in the park on a hot summer day with a beautiful Haitian-American woman named Fay Jasmine Walker. She became seriously angry when I took my shirt off because she knew she could not take hers off. She also knew that she was physically fit and very comfortable with her chocolate-body self-image. I felt so strongly for her that I put my shirt back on… I have told this story to many other women—many of whom not as physically fit as Jasmine—and these ladies aggressively don’t care to know just what the big deal was…

Diaspora/Global

61. I have the privilege of being a part of a sex where the mutilation and disfigurement of a girl’s genitalia is used to deny her sexual sensations or to protect her virginity for males.

Again this is not a “privilege”—this is just ostentatious sarcasm.

62. I have the privilege of not having rape be used as a primary tactic or tool to terrorize my sex during war and times of conflict.

More ostentatious sarcasm.

63. I have the privilege of not being able to name one female leader in Africa or Asia, past or present, that I pay homage to the way I do male leaders in Africa and/or Asia.

Ancient Japan was ruled by women. I tend to remember this quite frequently. In Africa, in the Old Kingdom, the women chose the male king. Sounds complicated but the bottom line is that women ruled in composition with men.

64. I have the ability to travel around the world and have access to women in developing countries both sexually and socially.

I mentioned “Flippant Remarks about the ‘mass exodus of African American male tourists to Brazil’” earlier.

65. I have the privilege of being a part of the sex that starts wars and that wields control of almost all the existing weapons of war and mass destruction.

Again, the author too easily confuses white patriarchy with traditional African manhood. I understand how easy it is to do this, but he should stop. Stopping this will make him a better person but he will get fewer dates with the population of properly-assimilated women and their confused, malformed love/hate of patriarchy.

66. In college, I will have the opportunity to date outside of the race at a much higher rate than black women will.

Black women actually shunned me at UCSB. There were so few of them there. Remember those girls with the skin color issues? They did not disappear—as much as they would like to deny it. At 21, I married a Latina. She was brown like my mother… but still, to this day, very white (self-alienated) on the inside…

67. I have the privilege of having the phrase “sewing my wild oats” apply to my sex as if it were natural.

Please. Go make me some ho’ cakes.

68. I know that the further I go in education the more success I will have with women.

Wrong! Very wrong. It’s the money that you get from an education that attracts many women—not the education itself. Only one Black woman talked to me at length about how aroused she got when she began to feel my thoughts. Those were the good ol’ days…

69. In college, black male professors will be involved in interracial marriages at much higher rates than members of the opposite sex will.

Okay… you are losing your liberal, Negro audience with this one…

70. By the time I enter college, and even through college, I have the privilege of not having to worry whether I will be able to marry a black woman.

This is just a fucking joke. I’m living proof. Check this: “Flippant Remarks about ‘Getting the Love You Want’.”

71. In college, I will experience a level of status and prestige that is not offered to black women even though black women may outnumber me and out perform me academically.

Yes, I wish I went to Howard instead of UCSB.

72. If I go to an HBCU, I will have incredible opportunities to exploit black women.

Yes, I wish I went to Howard instead of UCSB. I would have had my savior complex turned up to 11. Supposedly, to this day, I would have a fiercely devoted young, educated, healthy Black woman at my side because she would have known that I was actually serious about the power of woman—instead of the old, bitter, cynical bats flying around me today thinking they are “smart” for not taking me seriously. Instead, I went to school in Ronald Reagan’s backyard.

Communication/Language

73. What is defined as “News” in Black America is defined by men.

This item is of a trend that implies that Black male “privilege” identifies with white male privilege.

74. I can choose to be emotionally withdrawn and not communicate in a relationships and it be considered unfortunate but normal.

My experience is that “normal” women prefer this. I have memories of women wanting to talk—but it’s actually them doing most of the talking. I am very serious about being a poet so what I say makes too many women want to make me shut f’ up. When I speak, I speak to penetrate. I know that sounds like more male violence but it depends on how the penetration is done and the quality of the surface being breached.

*75. I can dismissively refer to another persons grievances as ^ing.

This is more white shit in Negro form. Very annoying and not me… When you find me dismissing you, this is after I tried to talk to you—several times. Remember those women who literally asked to have their asses slapped I mentioned earlier? These tough ladies can’t feel it when someone is actually trying to speak with them. Often, through past sexist experiences, that don’t have damn thang to do with me, these ladies are over-prepared not to be heard and are underprepared and ill-equipped to actually have the conversation. Again, I refer you to “My Three Sexist Assumptions of the Apocalypse.”

76. I have the privilege of not knowing what words and concepts like patriarchy, phallocentric, complicity, colluding, and obfuscation mean.

Yeah, that’s me—or you can’t read. In the past, too many women would rather think of themselves as literate and educated, while I permanently remain, to this day, a complete idiot. Do I sound bitter, sweetie? This honestly does not anger me because I have seen what kind intimate relationships some of these “smart” women have (or never have) and then I learn something new about poverty in the world.

Relationships

77. I have the privilege of marrying outside of the race at a much higher rate than black women marry.

To be blunt, many Black women (especially the younger ones) are not truly, deeply upset about Black men marrying women of European origin. What pisses some sisters off is Black men with Asian women—one bad theory for this is that many Asian women do not meet the European beauty standard that rules so many of our lives—so why would a Black man be attracted?

78. My “strength” as a man is never connected with the failure of the black family, whereas the strength of black women is routinely associated with the failure of the black family.

This statement of “privilege” is just gay.

79. If I am considering a divorce, I know that I have substantially more marriage, and cohabitation options than my spouse.

Yes, but by the way she act—she does not know this… that’s just the horror that is patriarchy—and it is too easy to find women that will consciously and non-consciously defend it.

80. Chances are I will be defined as a “good man” by things I do not do as much as what I do. If I don’t beat, cheat, or lie, then I am a considered a “good man”. In comparison, women are rarely defined as “good women” based on what they do not do.

In my experience, these are “privileges” women (who will consciously and non-consciously defend patriarchy) impose upon males.

81. I have the privilege of not having to assume most of the household or child-care responsibilities.

Again, in my experience, these are “privileges” women (who will consciously and non-consciously defend patriarchy) impose upon males. My mother was not playing that shit. I can run a house better than most sets of three women combined. Women, largely, do not praise me for this. They got too many f’ed up problems to go around praising people all the time.

82. I have the privilege of having not been raised with domestic responsibilities of cooking, cleaning, and washing that takes up disproportionately more time as adults.

Wrong. It is because of these domestic skills that makes me proud even arrogant. This power is part of an aesthetic that I value—like ancient priests cleaning the temple.

Church & Religious Traditions

83. In the Black Church, the majority of the pastoral leadership is male.

Check.

84. In the Black Church Tradition, most of the theology has a male point of view. For example, most will assume that the man is the head of household.

Check.

Physical Safety

85. I do not have to worry about being considered a traitor to my race if I call the police on a member of the opposite sex.

The framing of this item is just flawed. Most Black men don’t even want to see the police—on a television.

86. I have the privilege of knowing men who are physically or sexually abusive to women and yet I still call them friends.

Naw… not really… you can have a friend from childhood that you are real close to but as this child grows older into a male adult they sometimes admit things in passing that weakens the bond… as time passes the bond gets weaker…

87. I can video tape women in public—often without their consent—with male complicity.

Again, I do not share my sexuality with males as some kind ritual of “bonding”—I was not into team sports that much while growing up.

88. I can be courteous to a person of the opposite sex that I do not know and say “Hello” or “Hi” and not fear that it will be taken as a come-on or fear being stalked because of it.

I actually hate—deeply hate—the fact that a lone woman cannot stop me on the street and introduce herself to me because most are afraid of being physically violated. When we simply must be racist about this matter, I notice that “white” women are the most comfortable with this rare behavior—and this also makes me angry (because this is one way some Black men think life is better apart from Black women—and “white” women often do this in ‘exclusive situations’ where the socioeconomics often bar Black women from the scene).

89. I can use physical violence or the threat of physical violence to get what I want when other tactics fail in a relationship.

I have never done this—but I know that (especially in my younger days) some women actually wanted me to be like this. This is because some women under patriarchy only have materialistic/physical concepts of strength and dominance. And they want to have the wartime experience of being with a “real” man.

90. If I get into a physical altercation with a person of the opposite sex, I will most likely be able to impose my will physically on that person.

In my little world of unpopularity, the greatest “punishment” I have for a woman is to “banish” her. I’m one of those strange people that actually thinks a woman is pleased simply by being in my presence—and to take that away from her is violence enough… This punishment is not very effective but, by habit, it’s all I have… maybe I should teach myself to body slam people…

91. I can go to parades or other public events and not worry about being physically and sexually molested by persons of the opposite sex.

Have you been to West Hollywood on the wrong day?

92. I can touch and physically grope women’s bodies in public—often without their consent—with male complicity.

There are army men and there are family men.

93. In general, I have the freedom to travel in the night without fear.

Yes. And I cannot stand people who live in fear. But many men who travel the streets of Iraq at night are very afraid.

94. I am able to be out in public without fear of being sexually harassed by individuals or groups of the opposite sex.

Have you been to West Hollywood on the wrong day? I may be forty but I’m still pretty, baby! Snap! Snap! Snap!

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Ann, 2008-10-03 02:52:32

Hey, Bryan, great post. "Also, I can assure you that I have been expressing my imperfections quite well on this Blog for years and I can only remember one Black woman on this entire planet that responded to me with any form of comprehensive support. She writes “Beautiful, Also, are the Souls of My Black Sisters".Wow, I did not know I had done that, but, "Thanks"!

And all this time I just thought I left a few comments on your site :)

Okay.

On to the list:

LEADERSHIP & POLITICS:

  1. Yes, "race' is a social construct, as well as fluid. Race is not mutable, but, race remains a concrete daily experience for black people. I do agree, as a black WOMAN, that black women are beaten over the head where race and gender are concerned, and people DO expect black women to choose their race over their gender in political matters. Remember the hell black women voters caught for voting for Hillary instead of Obama? Black men have never been questioned the way black women were questioned in their voting decisions. A black woman could not go to the beauty salon without having a mic stuck in her face and be asked, "But, why are you NOT voting for Obama?" as if black women owe anyone their vote based on skin color alone.

Race may be a white supremacy lie, but racism is as real as racial stereotypes, housing/residential segregation, disparities in prison sentencing, wages, etc.2.I agree with you, BUT. . .

. . . .reading any kind of history of black/African people always leans towards the black male perspective, as if black women do not exist. The best way to sum it up, is a title I like to evoke:

"All the Women Are White, All the Blacks Are Men. . . .But, Some of Us Are Brave".

I have asked people of various races, Quick! what "image" comes to mind when you hear the words "women", "black". Dollars-to-donuts, 95% people (no matter their race) think of black men as opposed to black women with the word black, and 95% people think white woman with the word woman.

Yes African/Black women have held the world and this country together moreso than black men or anyone else.

Hell, even the sellout black traitors during slavery have been black men. Let me count the ways:

-July, Peter Devesny, to name just a few.

The Chinese saying, "Women hold up half the world", well, black women hold up all the world, as far as I am concerned. You cannot speak of "Black/African History' and leave out black women. To do so insults and degrades ALL Black/African women and their unhearalded contributions and accomplishments.3. I agree. Black women are the true workers of the civil rights movement. The majority of the male leaders were pushed into the forefront. Back then, it would have been anathema to allow a black woman to lead the CRM. When they did, inevitably it was taken over by the males and they got full credit for much of what black women CRM workers did. (And that goes triple for the Black Panther Party, Cleaver and his black female-raping self not withstanding.)4. I agree, but, with some history fact-checks:

Yes, NAACP, overwhelmingly MALE, WHITE AND BLACK. But, a few were women. Then again, the slights and disrespect happened anyway.

Mary Ovington. Heard of her? She is more well-known to people who know the NAACP's history, but, many people forget that the great Ida. B. Wells-Barnett was also a founding member of the NAACP. But, more people remember Ovington (a white Jewish woman), and DuBois and Springarn before they remember the little black lady who single-handly took on the vicious lynch mobs across America.

So, yes, NAACP, male.5. When was the last time during a racist incident, you heard NBC, CBS, FOX, etc., run to the phones and call up a black woman state rep., mayor or other political figure? Always like a broken record, they call out the "Jackson/Sharpton" brigade, as if black men ALL speak up for black women. They no more speak up for all black women any more than all white men speak up for all white women. Unless it is about a black man, black women are left holding the shitty end of the stick everytime. Just ONCE, I would like to see the pundits seek out a BLACK WOMAN when a racial incident occurs. God knows, I am sick to death of half the black population being treated as lepers who have no agency, not to mention, that we have no advocates who deign to speak for us---------unless it is something in it for them.

Facts: black men politicians are always taken more seriously than black women politicians. Hell, black men are taken more seriously than black women, especially the black women-haters like Snoopy Dog and Fitty Cent, who have leeched themselves rich and fat off the blood and backs of black girls and women.

  1. They are out there:

Cynthia McKinney Diane Watson Sheila Jackson Lee

To name but a dew.

Oops! Wait. I forgot.........black women are INVISIBLE. We do not exist in the black community nor in America.7. "American privilege"? I don't think so. I have met MANY, MANY black men who have not an idea of the existence of Anne Petry, Patricia Hill Collins, bell hooks, Audre Lorde, Barbara Harris, Katherine Cleaver, Assata Shakur. (Hell, I actually had a young black man ask me if Assata was Tupac Shakur's MOTHER! Damn!)

Many blacks think only black men have contributed to any movement or philosophy, but, then again, it does not help that many black's idea of feminism is the image of white women, when black women wrote the book on true feminism----which is for ALL humans: women, children, and MEN.8. Thank you. Cleaver the Rapist APOLOGIZED to the white race for raping white women.

Like the gutless wonder that he was, he NEVER apologized to the black girls and women he raped as practice targets before he went on to raping white women.9. Depends on the profession. Some black men do make more than black women. And for starters, black men men make 77 cents for every dollar a white man makes. Black women, earn 66 cents for every dollar.

"I blame no one but myself for this—when one has to place blame. My number one problem is that I am Black man—many Black women (and more than one wily brother) know how to take a lot of Eurocentric workplace punishment (because, likely, they took a lot of Afro-centric childhood punishment)—and for those women with the technical chops—they will go far, very far."

Yeah, that's us mules of the world black women. Guess we had to get something out of all the abuse and hell we have suffered at the hands of the Big Three: White Men, White Women, and Black Men.

I guess there is something to be said for those who hang in there, even if suffering tormenting hells. Then again, many black women realize that in the end they can truly count on no one but THEMSELVES in the end. It is not only the white community that vilifies black women. So too, does the black community. Not to mention, taking black women for granted."I have heard similar stories of ambivalence from Black women who return home from college only to be dismissed and avoided."

Welcome to the club.

You will find MORE black women in that club, than you do black men.10. Read my response to #5. BEAUTY:

  1. "This is simply a lie. I have a childhood filled with Black girls identifying my dark skin color as “wrong” in various capacities. Since I actually grew up in a Black working class neighborhood in Los Angeles, my earliest, direct experiences with racism was through these Black girls. And these Black girls are still here to this day. Just because some male-dominated rap videos came out in the last 15 years suddenly it us Black men doing all the hating. Hah!

Whoa. Back up and read slowly what he stated. Black women ARE denigrated more than black men because men do not face a so-called beauty concept the way women do. Yes, black people disparage each other on skin color issues ("colorism"), and black males have been dissed just as much as black females. But, I dare you to show me a black man who is disparaged the way black women are in the black community and outside the black community, based on unattainable Eurocentric beauty standards. And don't give that lame rapper comment. Black men like SD and FC have figured out if you are going to degrade black women, why the hell not make money out of it? So, no, black men DO NOT face the shit that black women face in a white-woman-worshipping/black woman-hating society.

When I as a black woman read/hear of black men stating hatefull comments against black women (Wesley "Self-Hating" Snipes), I have to wonder, who are they trying to score brownie points with? Beating down black women only gets black men like Snipes contempt. A black man is the envy of the world. For all the wrong reasons, but, the day I see black women lauded and celebrated for their beauty by ALL MEN, then will people be able to compare the life experiences of black men to black women----black men who never have to suffer from BOTH RACISM AND SEXISM the way black women do in this country. Black women are third-class citizens in this country, and in the BC.12. Tell me about it.

Also read, "Hair Story: Untangling The Roots Of Black hair In America".13. Women, no matter their race, are castigated for weight gain. When was the last time you heard, "Fat jolly woman", said without much derision? A man can be fat and stupid, but, until he opens his mouth, he is often accorded more respect than a fat woman.

Even if he does not have an out of control thyroid gland.14. Geeeeaaaaaaaaaang! Wrong. A woman is judged by her looks. Many women are written off by many men because they are not thin enough, short/small enough, light-bright-damn-near-white enough, submissive enough, acquiescing enough, deferrring to male privilege enough."As women seek equality with male patriarchal stereotypes, I’m seeing more than a few selecting males for youth and beauty—just like a male would."

I disagree. Few women are doing this. Many women still look for that man who is slightly older than them, makes more money than them, has more education than them.

I'll be happy if I find a man who listens to me and I can have an intelligent conversation with him without having to recreate the world to converse with him.SEX AND SEXUALITY:15. On the "healthy" males, are you saying that males who view pornography are deviant and psychologically pathological? As for porno, WHITE MALES are the overwhelming purchasers of porno, because it is marketed to them. Degrading women in varous types of porno showcase perverted acts against white women, Asian women, Black women, etc. Porno is not processed and sold with the interests of men of color in mind.

As for the "moneyshot" ejaculating on female's faces, I look upon it as a degrading act since it is akin to using her face as a napkin ejaculated onto.

I am familiar with sexual initiation rites in soem African societies, so for me this is not a new revelation.16. I agree with the author.

Many men are not raised to give pleasure to women, only to gratify themselves, no matter how much the woman cries in pain."I hate this “belief” because it is actually true for women in a love/hate relationship with patriarchy and gluttony. Women have asked me to smack that ass—hard. Now I did not hate to smack that ass but I hate the larger system of lowered sensitivity and confusion. Women are very tough. They largely have higher thresholds of pain than males do—especially me. More than a few women will look down on me for preferring to go slow and gentle with them because they prefer to ride hard most of the time. I’m just keeping it real and letting you know, homes."

Unfortunately some women had sex for the first time or had sexual experiences where they did not learn that rough hard painful sex IS NOT a part of a healthy sexual relationship between a man and a woman. If you (man or woman) only know rude, cruded, cruel harsh treatment, if the only world of intimate human contact you know is based upin painful sex, then it is highly unlikely that you will consider gentle tender sex as normal. The first time for a woman makes quite an umpact on her psyche, moreso than it is for a man.

"Women are tough."

Really?

So, women are blow-up dolls that can take pain more than men? I don't think so.

Then again,I guess we have to be tough considering 100,000+ years of shit we have had to endure from men."They largely have higher thresholds of pain than males do—especially me."

Show me where women have higher pain thresholds. Many women have bought into the lie that they should NOT receive pleasure from sex, and some even believe that as long as it hurts it must be right and normal.

Fact: if it hurts, it is not normal. Tearing the lining out of the vagina helps no woman, no matter how much she lies to herself about it.

Give me a man who LISTENS to what I desire in a sexual relationship, and I will give you a man who thinks more of just his penis."Lowered sensitivity"?

Hmm."Confusion".

Damn straight.17. Men do not have to be Catholics to still believe in the hypocrisy of the woman being a virgin, and that the man does not have to be one.

With all the sex going on now, how the hell do men expect many women to be virgins? Or celibates? If men want women to remain virgins, then they have to practive what they preach.

On the herpes.

I hear ya'.

Now, further discussing the virgin hypocrisy:

If you have dated a woman for 6+ months, she is a virgin, she wants to wait until marriage---ot better yet, ALL THE WOMEN in your vicinity are virgins/celibates and they are holding out until marriage.

What do you do then?

Hmm?

And no going to another neighborhood. You and all the other males stay right there where you live and tell me what your actions would be then.

With all these virgins, and celibates walking around who are saying "No" until marriage?18. And I call bullshit. A woman says no, accept that. Now, if she is pushing up against you saying no, I would question her psyche on sex. Is she afraid she will lose you if she does not get down? Does she feel that if she does the nasty that it will make you stay with her?"There is no woman sexier than a woman who means yes and can look you straight in the eyes and say, “Yes.”

And there is no man more sexier than a man who knows when to back off when the woman says and means no. Believe me, many women will thank you for that.19. For women this is still true. Especially in date/acquaintance rapes. "How much did she drink?" "Was she drunk?" "What, she WAS drunk? All the more reason to rape her."

How a woman was dressed has nothing to do with rape.

If that were so, how are the rapes of 5-year-old girls, nuns and elderly women explained?

Rappers. Or should I say, "rapers" who pervert the history of black people.20. Such terms speak of misogyny against women and weakness of some men's fears of women.21. I can never see how any ONE MAN can please more than one woman. Must be more of a living hell, than paradise.22. Many men still dream of the young virginal non-experienced girl they can "break in", usually to her detriment, and his sexual gratification."I prefer to be with holistically healthy, mature women who can hold a conversation with me. Just read what I have written here and guess what kind of woman you know that would be very eager to talk to me because this woman moves thoughts like gold diggers move mountains. Tell that woman to look me up on Facebook.

Go head on, with your bad self."I won’t hold my breath."

Now, now. Did we, or did we not have this conversation before? I do somewhat remember responding to another post of yours about holding your breath.

let's see........what post was that?23. Good to know you feel that way. Besides, the more people you sleep with the higher your chances of STDS, AID, Herpes, and not to mention, Glen Close of "Fatal Attraction", well, at least her character.24. For some men, porno is a way of life, and for some men, pornography is a how-to primer on what they consider a normal relationship. Fancy what they find out when many women are not into B&D, handcuff, whips.25. Yeah, what is a "purity ball"? That's a new one even to me.26. Glad to hear that, BUT, many men think, porno or no porno, that causing a woman pain is something to be manly proud of. No, it is not. Causing pain is just that. Sadistic. Low. And mean.POPULAR CULTURE:27. ALL of American culture disses women and motherhood. "Mom and Apple Pie", my ass.28. I consider it a privilege. Black women are derided and insulted enough by white popular culture----must black men grovel to making money off the barbs and jabs into black women?

Oops! I forgot. Black women are eveyone's punching bag. Not to mention that there are not many black men who would have the balls to attack and laugh at white women the way Perry and others of his ilk do. And just because a black woman laughs at it does not make it right.

Many whites laughed and jeered while white lynch mobs tortured black men AND women. So, I guess that made ritualized lynching funny?

Many blacks laughed at Stepin' Fetchit and "Amos n' Andy", so that made it right?

When you have only denigrating stereotypes all your life from EVERYONE, when you have eaten garbage all your life, then you all of a sudden eating healthy food---you vomit. Black women need to stop the consumption of hated images that tear them down. Take a mind laxative. Purge themselves. Then challenge the black women-haters like Perry.

With their pocketbooks.

Snap them shut hard, against his money-grubbing fingers.

And just because Perry slept in his car did not give him the right to get ahead at black women's expense.

Black women need to pull their heads out of their asses and stop the laughing. They dont realize it, but the world is laughing AT them, not WITH them.

Now let's see some black women start making fun of black men the way Perry does. I guarantee you, black men (and some sexist black women) will scream and howl about the poor, poor put-upon black man.

Shit.

Okay, ya' don't want to sleep in your car. You don't have to pimp black women's images and dignity to make a fast buck.29. 30.31. Co-sign.32. White "kids" who would not know what a black person' life in America is really like.33. "Pimp": a leech on women and a dreg to society.34. Oh, really? Until THEY have a female member of their family called a bitch or ho?35. Tell me you do not condone spouse abuse?36. Haven't seen the "Veronique" movie yet, though I have heard of it and I have heard of Kieslowski.37. And I looove seeing those Asian women kick kungfu ass!38. If a man thinks it will get him more women, then he will "thug" with the best of them.

Oh, and that man definitely will receive no opposition from MOST other men.ATTITUDES AND IDEOLOGY:39. Yeah, that's the post I had in mind.What some men call "attitudes" is the strength black women had to build up to survive the weak men (black women-haters) of the world.40. See the beginning of my post above :)41. Co-sign.

    1. Double co-sign.44. I agree. Things were going good until men changed what was a good thing for humanity. Thanks for nothing Akenaton!45. As bell hooks stated: "Feminism. It's a black thing."46. Cosign. Thank you E. Franklin Frazier. Thank you copycat, Daniel Patrick Moynihan.

Black matriarchy, my ass.

Although I will say that "Black male “privilege” identifies with white male privilege", is very true. Why do you think white men do not have to vilify and degrade black women like in the good old days? They have whores like SD and FC to do that for them, just as white men can have black men degrade and vilify white women as well. You do know that because of MALE PRIVILEGE, ALL MEN can band together to shit on women, even if those women are of their own race and the shitting is being done by a man of another race?47. Co-sign, with you.48. "My guess is that this item mixes two debilitating influences on the sexuality of Black women: the traditional need to suppress open, honest sexuality to prevent rape and murder during the era of legal American slavery and the white missionary tradition of suppressing female sexuality that still runs the Black church to this day."

Co-sign."My other guess is that this item suggests that we Black males have the “privilege” to “escape” these debilitating influences on Black women by having more ‘open,’ ‘honest’ sex with women from different so-called “races.”

Many Black men who have spoken to me about this do not consider this a “privilege” but, at best, an “alternative” and at worst the last resort. Do remember that the Black men that speak to me (about these personal issues) are not famous Hollywood actors, investment bankers, sports stars or any celebrity of any kind."

Oh, really? Black men CAN escape the debiltating influences that still exists for black women. Even thoguh black men are lauded for their supposed sexual prowess, black women on the other hand are not lauded for their unique beauty. Black women face a double standard that no black man, or any other man caan survive on a day to day basis.

Many men do not have the balls to hold up under the challenges that black women have enudured in this rathole of a black-woman-hating country.

Stop the running to women of other races. You (black men) won't find yourselves there. Honor and acknowledged the beauty of black women's strengths.

We have survived some hellacious shit in this damn country.

Strentghs we are envied for.

But NOT the experience it took to get us there.SPORTS:I pity those women. I thank you for Fay Jasmine. I certainly appreciated what you did.DIASPORA/GLOBAL:61. "Sarcasm", huh? Try telling that to a young Ethiopian girl or Kenyan girl who has just had her clitoris, labias, vulva hacked off with a dirty piece of glass, and the remains TIGHTLY SEWN UP for some unfeeling male to have the tighest sex in the world. Not to mention his cowardly fears of her body that she was born with.

Damn, I mean what is up with men and their fears and envy of women's bodies?62. Until males experience wartime rape the way women do, I want be shedding any tears anytime soon for males who do not get the horrific residue of such crimes against the humanity of women.63. Co-sign.64. Whoa. Where has this author been living? WHITE MALES overwhelmingly commit sexual outrages more than any other group when it comes to traveling abroad for sex from people living at starvation levels in Third World countries.

Some black men may be dingbattish enough to think they are "white men", that they can run with the big dogs of sexual perversions, but, facts have to be faced. They cannot run with white male "Ugly American/European" behaviour. Besides, mistreating women of Brazil because they can only shows that black men who do such crap are no different from any other race of men.65. I would not call it a privilege, BUT, men certainly have the monopoly on starting wars and killing everyone in their pathway. Not to mention the millions of rapes committed against females, which are war crimes.66. Don't even go there. Black women still lose out more in the dating world tha do black men. But, then again, this statement:"There were so few of them there."

Could it be that those black girls knew they were in limited supply, the way some black men on campus are, and they behaved the way some black men do----scarce in numbers, so pick and choose ANY woman over a black woman?67. Well, that is the way men are allowed to think, is it not? Where is the female equivalent of sowing her wild oats?68. Yep. It is not the EDUCATION that you have, it is what you do with that education that is the turn-on.

Give me a geek who can explain the schematic of the difference between chrominance and luminance and the horizontal lines of resolution of 800, as opposed to 480 horizontal lines of resolution.

Be still my beating heart.

  1. Don't know about that one. My professors were either white women, white men so I cannot debate this one.

  2. Worry about marrying a black woman? Hell, there are more black women than black men, so where's the worry for ANY black man?

Sheesh.71. I agree with the author.72. Hmm.I never looked at it that way.

Why be a small fish in a little pond (black man on all-black campus), when you can be a big fish in a little pond ( one of a few black men on all-white campus)?

Unless you are attending Morehouse?COMMUNICATING AND LANGUAGE:73. Black male privilege can identify with white male privilege. Then again, sexism is pretty much all that black men can relate to with white men. Black men cannot exploit white women/other women the way white men can, but, they sure can exploit and commit sexism against black women.

When you cannot dump on those who are dumping on you, and you don't dare dump on those who can shit on you (white men lambasting black men), then guess who the black man is going to take it out on? The white man?

Please.74. I agree with the author.

As for "normal women" who prefer this, maybe they have simply shut down and are tired of trying to engage conversation.75. I have trouble being heard and listened to some of the time. Recently I had one man try to correct me, and hell, he did not even know what I was talking about!

And when I let the man explain his viewpoint, it usually is so lop-sided and whacked-out that I wonder where did he get his ideas from. But, I stand my ground. Most of the time, the men have not a clue about the realities of life for many black women. Then again, why should they? Black women are indeed invisible in the BC. And in the world's eyes.76. Wow, good one.RELATIONSHIPS:77. I agree with the author. ANY NON-BLACK WOMAN would be questioned. Since black men do not face the double standard of racism/sexism, and the beat-down of "non-black ethnic features" that black women face, black women have a harder time in the dating marriage game. It is not that black women are against IRs; they are not. Many are tired of being ignored and attacked by some black men who cannot just marry the damn woman from another race and get on with their lives without having to attack black women to explain why they (black men) are with a non-black woman.

Plus America constsntly tells black women totheir faces their beauty is to be disparaged and trivialized.78. And I call you.

Read my "Myth of the Black Matriarchy":

http://kathmanduk2.wordpress.com/2007/08/17/the-myth-of-the-black-matriarchy/79. I agree with the author. Too bad many black women do not demand more of a relationship instead of settling for "man-sharing".80. Huh? Women are too defined but what they do not do:

-not having sex before marriage -not being smarter than a man -not making more money than a man81. Depends on the mother. Some raise their sons to be self-sufficient. Sadly some do not. I love a man who is self-sufficient. Just as a woman should be self-sufficient with vehicles and machines.

Oh, and I praise men when I find one that knows how to cook, clean house, balance a checkbook...........if ONLY I can actually find men like that.

  1. I pity the man who cannot TAKE CARE OF HIMSELF."Wrong. It is because of these domestic skills that makes me proud even arrogant. This power is part of an aesthetic that I value—like ancient priests cleaning the temple."

Go head on, with your bad self.CHURCH AND RELIGIOUS TRADITIONS:83. 84. Co-sign.PHYSICAL SAFETY:85. Come on. Don't even go there. In the BC, black women have had to stifle the assaults of rape, incest and spouse abuse: "Don't call the law on him. He's a black man. Haven't black men suffered enough?"

As if black women have not suffered at the hands of both black and white men.

I say call the cops on the bastard.

Enough of black women and girls suffering in silence from brutality just because some black men do not have the balls NOT to beat up on and destroy black women and girls.

Oh, by the way:"The framing of this item is just flawed. Most Black men don’t even want to see the police—on a television."

Tell that to this mother and her young son:

http://kathmanduk2.wordpress.com/2007/08/10/dunbar-village/

And in case the destroyers of black women in the black women have NOT gotten the message, here is a post that drives the point home with no equivocating or hemming and hawing:

http://kathmanduk2.wordpress.com/2008/07/22/black-woman-sexually-assaulted-for-hours-and-no-one-came-to-her-aid-ways-black-women-can-protect-themselves/

  1. Lots of times the bond not only does not get weaker...it actually grows.

What's that old saying......"You are known by the company you keep."87. Maybe not you. But, it does happen.88. Double-co-sign! Black women are devalued in this society, so ALL males are suspicious to them. White women are valued more, and they know it. Hence the "exclusivity" you speak of.89. And they do not know what a "real man" is. They have not had positive male influence in their lives or else horrible male role models both in and out of the family.

A real man does not use force or coercion. A weak man does that.90. Ixnay on the body-slamming. Believe me, the banishing is good enough. Besides bodyslamming may get you arrested.91. I agree with your assessment. Refer back to question #88.92. Depends on the WOMAN. Depends on the situation. Depends on the other men's RACE.

Let's just see you grope a white, Asian, Arab woman in full view of a man of her race---then I want the author to get back with me on the groping without fear of severe bodily destruction from men of other races. Unless it is a BLACK WOMAN, ALL OTHER WOMEN OF OTHER RACES are hands-off.93. Please, cry me a river.

Men will never have the fear that women have in traveling BOTH DAY AND NIGHT.

Yes, men can suffer form being robbed, but, women suffrer from being robbed, raped and murdered, as well as tortured before they are murdered.

The wrong is that women HAVE TO LIVE IN FEAR because they are 1) considered property of men; 2) have no right to travel from point A to point B without fear of being harmed. Women are indoctrinated that they have no right to go about their lives, to actually have the audacity to live in this world. So, yeah, it is wrong that women are forced to live much of their lives inside because it was deemed centuries ago that they had no right to live in this world that devalues them so much."And I cannot stand people who live in fear."

What kind of "fear"?

Fear to leave their homes knowing that they may be attacked because they are women

or

fear they may use a gun because they fear they will face harm?94. Not having been to West Hollywood, I cannot answer this one ;)Whew!

Made it.If you do not mind, I will link to your post.Have a better one :)

Ann, 2008-10-03 20:54:28

Sorry for the typos.

rasx(), 2008-10-05 02:38:13

Ann... wow. I'm just... stunned. What does "BC" stand for?

Ann, 2008-10-13 20:57:23

Oh, sorry. . . .

"BC" stands for "Black Community".

rasx(), 2008-10-15 19:31:16

I just tried to email you! The mail bounced!

Ty, 2010-03-12 07:05:38

BRILLIANT. Brothers who are irreverent and snarky,too. I just wrote a critique on this concept when I came across your blog. Your response to #11 struck a personal note. I grew up in South Central and got laughed at by Black girls and clowned for my dark skin, so I know it's bullshit. Keep on, my man

rasx()